Self care vs Selfish.

The thing about only thinking of yourself, is that it blinds you to the fact of how your actions will affect the people around you. There’s nothing wrong with thinking of yourself, however, there’s something terribly wrong when you think of only yourself. Selfishness has a way of making us believe that only our feelings and actions will be impacted, by our selfish ways, but truth is, that’s simply not true, and our feelings aren’t the only thing that matters! Other people have feelings too! Oftentimes, a self centered person is really a person who doesn’t feel secure, and they feel like, only thinking of themselves keeps them in power or gives them the upper hand, but I ask, at what cost? 

Is it okay to do what you want if it negatively affects those around you? Is it okay to do something that boosts your ego, but makes someone else feel like they’re less than human, or that they don’t matter? We have to be careful not to only think of ourselves when considering our feelings, or our desires. Selfishness can cause us to miss out on big opportunities and even bigger blessings. It can also cause us to lose some great relationships with good people!

Sometimes hurt can cause us to become selfish. Someone hurts us and the next thing you know, we’re only thinking of ourselves, to protect ourselves, because we’ve lost our trust in people, but that’s not the way, and it’s also not God’s way. The golden rule is to treat people the way you want to be treated. The best way to receive good things, is to give good things, not material things, but things money can’t buy. Things like love, kindness, sincerity of heart, truth, respect, honor, and loyalty. 

The Word of God says, “It’s better to give than to receive.” You know why? Because a giver is always blessed! Their hands and heart is always open to give and to pour into others. People who only want to receive, only think of themselves, what they can take, and how it will benefit them. The crazy thing is, many selfish people don’t even realize how selfish they are, or they don’t see a problem with their ways, until there’s consequences for their actions. They just think that they’re taking care of themselves.

There’s nothing wrong with self care, but don’t be selfish. If you need to set boundaries, okay. If you need to tell people no, okay. There’s nothing wrong with these things, but what spirit are you doing them in? That’s what truly matters.

A person who practices self care, takes care of themselves in a way that promotes, healing, positivity, wholeness, and health. They don’t use people for personal gain. A selfish person helps themselves at other people’s expense. They misuse people, abuse people, manipulate, and betray people, in order to get what they want. It’s always, only about what they can take, and never about what they can give back.

We must be more conscious about our actions. Even before the act, we must be more conscious about our thoughts and motives. If we do anything, it should be done in love, and not just love for ourselves, but real love. Love that considers all things, and how our actions will impact those around us. Mature people understands self care, but being selfish gets you no where. It may satisfy a feeling temporarily, but the consequences could cause you to pay for a very long time.