Cheating is about more than sex.

Let’s be clear about something. People cheat because they want to. Nobody forces them into bed and makes them. Not only that, but it doesn’t have anything to do with what their spouse isn’t or is doing. If you’re committed to someone then you’re going to communicate your feelings to that person so that the two of you can get some understanding and work things out. If someone’s claiming to be monogamous, but they’re not committed or dealing with insecurities or past relationship pains, then more than likely that person’s hurt will also become their spouse’s pain. One of the most childish excuses to dismiss a person’s disloyalty is to blame it on their innocent spouse. I’m not speaking in regards to their spouse not having any flaws, because none of us are perfect. I’m speaking in regards to that person choosing to keep their loyalty despite whatever’s going on within their relationship. You don’t get a pass to cheat, just because your relationship is facing difficulties. If anything this is the time to really come together and weather the storm. You don’t get to dump your frustrations from your current relationship into another human being. If you think about it, this is exactly what cheating is. Sexually transporting baggage. The next thing you know, the person who cheated with the perpetrator inherits their problems, and vice versa. This baggage of problems and frustrations are nothing more than ungodly soul ties… and if you’re not married and you’re being sexually intimate with your spouse, I hate to break it to you, but no matter how much you think you love them, you’re also dealing with an ungodly soul tie. It doesn’t matter how you try to justify it, if you are a child of God, then you know how He feels about sex before marriage. It’s a sin. 🤷🏾‍♀️Sex is more than just sex. God knows this and this is why He don’t want us out here laying down with a person and getting up with all of their demons. Which is why it’s so hard for some people, especially women, to let some men go, because those men have dumped all of their issues into those ladies and gone about their business, meanwhile the women  (who’ve received all these issues vaginally) is still holding on to these men because they feel connected. A woman may think it’s love, but it’s really a spiritual attachment that doesn’t have anything to do with God (the definition of love). Meanwhile the man knew it wasn’t love from the get go, only a way that he chose to relieve his frustrations… I’m not male bashing because women do this too. Cheating is disgusting in every aspect. Can it be forgiven? Of course, but don’t be a fool. If the cheater isn’t trying to rectify their behavior and if they’re not seeking God to help them do so, then you’re wasting your time. We can only do so much on our own, and trying to fight personal demons without the Spirit Of God, is a lost cause. Anyone can change if they allow God to do the changing, and still it’s a process. Philippians 2:13, “For it is God who works in you to will and to act on behalf of His good purpose.” We can’t do God’s will our way. We need the Holy Spirit to do God’s will His way! Thank God for Jesus! We’ve all made mistakes, but as long as we’re still here, there is grace! Whether you’ve cheated, been cheated on, dealing with an ungodly soul tie or whatever issues you have, surrender your all to God; both the problems you’re aware of, and the ones you may be unaware of. Just say: Lord forgive me for doing things my way. I’ve been trying to “handle” life on my own. I’m tired of carrying this baggage around. I’m ready to give it to you. I’m ready to be free and delivered, so that I can do your will and love the way you intended me to. Strengthen me where I’m weak, build me up where I’m torn down, restore my broken pieces, help me forgive, and walk in your love. In Jesus Christ name I pray. Amen. 🙏🏾

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