Oh, the irony of anger. Have you ever heard the phrase, “It’s a thin line between love and hate?” How about this phrase, “He who angers you controls you?” When someone ticks you off, you’re angry because you feel like they owe you something, preferably an apology. Basically, you just want the person to right their wrongs.
What if the person never apologizes? Should you just forgive and forget? The short answer is yes. Peter asked Jesus how many times should he forgive someone who wronged him? He then asked Jesus should he forgive seven times?
Jesus said seventy times seven (see Matthew 18:21-22). In other words, Jesus was telling Peter to always forgive. Forgiving someone for doing you wrong sets you free. The longer you’re angry, the tighter the clench becomes. The clench that keeps offense in your grip.
You want to know what else is in that clench, the person who offended you! You may think you’re done with this person, but truth is, as long as you’re holding on to what they did, you’re not done with them. In order to heal from the hurt of your past, you have to let go! Another truth is, you won’t let go of the offense because you refuse to let go of the person… you still love them.
What if I told you that it’s possible to love someone for life, without them actually being in your life? It’s the truth. Sometimes it’s best to love from a distance. Especially in situations where being with or around this person robs you of your peace. There are some instances where distance isn’t an option, and so you really have to forgive quickly and learn to protect your peace.
One way to protect your peace is to humble yourself. You’re not doing it to please people, you’re doing it for God, and realizing this makes biting your tongue a lot less painful. James 4:10, “Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.” Letting go and letting God feels better than the temporary satisfaction of revenge. Deuteronomy 32:35, “It is mine to avenge; I will repay.”
Let God deal with people and most importantly, allow Him to deal with you! Loosen that clench you’ve been holding on to, and allow Him to work on and through you! The process may hurt sometimes, and it isn’t always going to be pretty, but if you trust God with the ugly, He can create something beautiful! There is purpose in your pain! If you enjoyed this message, click the link below to receive your copy of my book, “Betrayed with a kiss.”
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